MENTAL HEALTH & WELLBEING
EVERYONE YOU MEET IS FIGHTING A BATTLE YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT.
BE KIND. ALWAYS.
- Robin Williams
You can’t see it - it’s an invisible pain It’s OK to Need Help
- a weight
- a feeling of insignificance
- a crushing wave
- a monster
At Dorking Rugby Club, we're passionate about supporting the health and wellbeing of our members and players, with our Medical & Rehabilitation Centre providing top class facilities for player welfare from Minis through to Seniors. Mental Health is as important as physical wellbeing however, and we are committed to providing our rugby community with the support they need. Working with local charity Dorking Minds we will be increasing the number of Adult and Adolescent Mental Health First Aiders at the club, with the aim of eventually having one per age group/playing squad.
As Adults, we try and stay strong for our families and friends, but there will always be times when we feel a little more vulnerable. It's OK to not be OK. It's OK to talk and it's OK to ask for help. We have people you can talk to confidentially, who will listen without judgement and who can offer support. Medical lead Melanie Thorn is the first point of contact - please click here. Other useful contacts/resources are set out below.
With large Minis, Youth and Girls' sections, we are only too aware of the pressures that young people face and the mental health crisis that has been escalated by the pandemic. We have qualified Adolescent Mental Health First Aiders within the club/coaching structure who are available to offer support and advice - please click here. Working with specialist teenage mental health provider Stem4 we intend to hold a series of presentations/webinars for parents and coaches, providing education on how to identify warning signs and advice on how to offer support and access appropriate services. Other useful contact and resources are below.
Support for Adults
Surrey & Borders Partnership NHS Foundation Trust
Mental Health Crisis Helpline - 0800 915 4644
Samaritans - Website - www.samaritans.org
Phone - 116 123
Online chat - pilot service available from website.
AnxietyUK - Website - www.anxietyuk.org.uk
Phone - 03444 775 774
Text support - 07537 416905
Mind - Website - www.mind.org.uk
General advice and support
Ieso Digital Health - Website - www.iesohealth.com
DHC Talking Therapies
Website - www.dhctalkingtherapies.co.uk
Phone - 01483 906392
Brave Mind - Website - www.bravemind.co.uk
A rugby specific mental health charity
Apps - Headspace
My Possible Self
Local Community-based Projects
Mary Frances Trust Website - www.maryfrancestrust.org.uk
Dorking Men’s Shed Website - www.dorkingshed.org.uk
Email - firstname.lastname@example.org
Patchwork Garden Website - www.patchworkinggardenproject.co.uk
Support for Children & Teenagers
CAMHS Single point of access -
Phone - 0300 222 5755
CYP Safe Haven - Website - www.cyphaven.net
Phone - 01483 519436
Drop in centres in Guildford & Epsom
Kooth - Website - www.kooth.com
Online counselling & wellbeing platform
Jo’s Buddy Line - Website - www.Joesbuddyline.org
Text support - text Joesbuddy to 85258
Apps Blue Ice
Local Community-based Projects
Belong Community Project Website - www.belongcommunity.org
Email - email@example.com
Phone - 07532 331810
Based at The Malthouse, Meadowbank, Dorking
For Mental Health First Aiders at Dorking RFC Contact
Pip Merrett 07976 742421 firstname.lastname@example.org
There is a stigma around it [mental health] and an association with weakness.
“When people open up about those things, it's a sign of strength, not weakness. There should never be a stigma about it.
'I was driving to work every morning, putting the radio on and crying. I was having these thoughts: "You're pathetic. What are you doing here? What's the point of it all?". Not just the point of rugby… the point of life. It was a case of, "F**k it all". There were times when I thought, "What would it be like if I wasn't here?"
The doctor spoke to me and said, "If you’ve got a virus, do you take antibiotics?" I said, “Er, yeah”.
'He said that’s exactly how you should look at anti-depressants. I was taking them like an antibiotic, while doing CBT to help put the processes in place. It suddenly made perfect sense. It didn’t feel like a weakness any more.'
“And I’d encourage anyone to speak out if they’ve got feelings about something. Get it out there. We all have dark times occasionally. In the macho world of rugby, it can be seen as a sign of weakness to be emotional and honest. It’s not.”
Part of the ethos of rugby is to look out for each other. Whether you’re a coach, player or supporter it’s important to keep an eye on those around you and if you see someone struggling, don’t be afraid to say something and offer support"
A survey of female rugby players in the United Kingdom, conducted by the Girls Rugby Club in 2020, found an overwhelming 90% of respondents said that playing rugby improved their self-esteem and confidence.